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As we await medical news about a beloved member of our family, I'm reminded of they keys to resilience. Waiting for "news" can be stressful. What can you do? In fact, when you're in that situation, you wonder "What will I do? We won't know for two weeks. How am I supposed to..."

Divert yourself is one key. Intellectually you know that worrying without aim is pointless and also exhausting. When you're waiting on information, you tend to play out all the alternatives. It's a waste of time. Beyond doing what needs doing daily, divert yourself.

• Start a new book
• Go get a massage
• Surround yourself with people
• Get with a child. Children are always in the moment and you'll have to go there w/ them
• Plan a party
• Journal
• Take a trip

When you do go back to the concern, remain optimistic and hopeful. Plan for the worst, but expect the best.

DWELLING gives you even more psychological and physiological stress than you're already under, and accomplishes nothing.

Further, you build the habit into your brain, i.e., this is how I handle potential adversity. It becomes an habitual way of dealing with a problem. To start breaking that cycle, you have to start thinking differently.

Resilience is the bouncing back. Practice making the cycle shorter and less intense, and you[ll bounce back faster and more easily.

EQ coaching can help you with this.